What It's Like to Be in a Serious Relationship

By Justin Japitana on November 18, 2015

In a world of unpredictability and fearing what the future holds, it’s a relief that you can mark “find a significant other” off your to-do list.

Being in a serious relationship is awesome; just hearing the voice of your SO (significant other) is probably one of the most calming and reassuring you’ll hear besides Morgan Freeman or George Clooney. Hearing them greet you hello or offer a hug is one of the many ways to “bring you back” to a relaxed state of mind.

Your significant other isn’t just any regular girlfriend or boyfriend; in the back of your head, you think to yourself that your current SO has the potential to be the last one, and even considering that when you’re in college is already a big, but queasy, step in your life.

A lot of people tend to forget that their SO is also their best friend; a person you can talk to about anything whether it’s meaningless banter or something personal. They’re always there for you and your well-being so if you’re thinking that you can rock a mullet, trust their judgment.

When everyone is out and about and no one in the squad has the time of day for you, it’s great knowing your SO is always there no matter what, especially when it comes to getting food. Can’t decide between the chicken and waffles or the taco salad? When it comes to relationships, getting food isn’t a hardship; it’s an activity. New horror movie in theatres and you don’t want to watch it alone? Don’t worry, just get food instead! It’s less scary. Inside jokes are intimate memories; everything is better overall with your SO. Shopping, playing video games, watching movies, working out, sleeping, cooking together, burning food together, opening all the windows in the house together, calling 911 together, and yes even calling your parents to tell that you’re okay is better together.

Finding the ratio between time for yourself, friends, and your SO is also a challenge and even a responsibility. Sometimes, you just want to unwind alone or talk some smack with the friends or appropriate some cuddle time with the SO, and there will always be a side that seems unfulfilled; neglecting your friends for your SO or vice-versa, or even forgetting to take some time to care for yourself.

One way to kill two birds with one stone is inviting your girlfriend to hang out with your friends; if your SO is a real friend, he/she should fit in with your squad in time. Consider scheduling a time to hang out with friends as well; it helps to be responsible and no one’s feelings get hurt. After all, your SO is your significant other, be sure to treat him/her like the priority they should be.

Being in a serious relationship also has its challenges and downsides. It hurts to argue with your SO and it hurts even more when something meaningless snowballs into something serious. With regular relationships, an intense and heated argument could lead to a breakup while for serious relationships that may not always be the case.

Sometimes, both partners argue to the point of no return but neither of them wants to break up, given the entirety of their relationship, so a lot of harsh and inconsiderate things could be said and rather than calling it quits, the relationship just feels devastatingly broken with hopes of making it work down the path. Nothing is worse than when you already foresee that there’s no quick fix to end your argument and you just have to wait an entire day for things to simmer down, and you would much rather do anything else right now than argue about occasional long distance problems or trust issues.

Sometimes you have to consider your SO into your life decisions whether it’s moving somewhere inconvenient for him/her to the smaller things like using any available time in your busy schedules to spend time together. Perhaps, your SO may have settled already but maybe you want to move to New York or maybe some job opportunity sends you up north.

Being in a serious relationship also means willing to make great sacrifices for your SO, but that may not always be the case. Communication and preparing is always key in these situations. Do you or your SO have the heart and strength to maintain that long distance relationship? Do you feel moving isn’t a good option right now? If you follow your SO to somewhere new, do you think you can start all over? Optimism doesn’t hurt in these situations; perhaps moving somewhere could lead to new opportunities for you as well.

Nevertheless, your SO is your other half. You do your best to ensure your SO is happy; you treat him/her like the priority he/she deserves to be. You get coffee together, you kiss sometimes, you fight over boring math stuff probably. You introduce them to your family and friends and everyone hits it off, as it should be. There are many life lessons one could learn from a serious relationship, but the most relevant one for a college student would be to never go to sleep angry or distressed.

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